This whole ordeal that ive been going through since christmas break with protection papers with the ex yadayadayade details not needed. However, lady in court gave my mom this little buisness card size that has “15 signs someone might be dangerous” to give to me. Please ladies, take some time to read. This is no joke. Im still having issues with everything. But I think I beat myself more up and blame myself for being so blind to all the signs. If someone had showed me this a year ago I dont think id be in the situation I am now. (or was). Im so thankful for my current boyfriend and what a blessing he is to me. But take the time to read these signs, and consider. Dont get to far in deep where you cant get out. And never accept less than what you deserve.
15 Signs Someone Might Be Dangerous.
Do they do one or more of these things? Then its time for you to get help or get out.
*1. Wants to get involved to fast: Right away he wants you to promise to only be with him. Says, “No one’s ever loved me like you do.”
*2. Jealous: He wants to make sure you aren’t with anyone else; calls all the time, or shows up without telling you he’s coming.
*3. Wants to control you: Wants to know who you talked to and where you were; checks mileage on your car; keeps all the money; makes you ask for his OK to go anywhere or do anything.
*4. Expects you to be perfect: He expects you to know what he wants and meet his every need.
*5. Cuts you off from others: Doesn’t want you to see family and friends; won’t let you have a phone or car; doesn’t want you to work.
*6. Blames others for problems: If anything goes wrong, it’s always someone else’s fault — the boss, you. Everyone is out to get him.
*7. Blames others for his feelings: He says, “You’re hurting me by not doing what I tell you” or “You make me mad” instead of “I’m mad.”
*8. Gets upset easily: He gets mad about things that are just part of life.
*9. Hurts animals and children: Kills or punishes animals. Wants children to do things they can’t, or teases them until they cry.
*10. Uses force during sex: Enjoys throwing you down or holding you down againest your will during sex; he finds the idea of rape exciting.
*11. Says things to hurt you: Always criticizes you or says cruel things; puts you down, curses, calls you ugly names.
*12. Thinks women should obey men: Wants you to serve, obey, and stay at home.
*13. Sudden changes in mood: Switches from sweet and loving to mad in a few minutes.
*14. Has hit women before: Says he hit women in the past.
*15. Says he will hurt you: Says things like “Ill break your neck,” then says “I didnt really mean it.”
Dont wait untill you get hurt! Get help or get out.
Legal Aid Society 1-800-238-1443 — National Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE (7233)
learn from my experiance. i dont care how much you “love him”. ive been there. and ive seen the ending result. its not fun. and wish i saw the signs sooner than being so blind.
